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Tuesday, 5 March 2019

My New Approach To Gifting

Buying a gift for someone is not my speciality. I tend to get people the same thing year in year out. It was a relative's birthday recently (Gifts are one of the things my shopping ban permits me to buy.), and I was thankful they requested a specific item. It made choosing their gift much easier, and they got what they wanted.

When I was de-cluttering, I was staggered by the number of gifts from people I had buried away in the bottom of drawers and the back of the wardrobe. All of the items were presented to me with the best of intentions, but most were things I did not need, like or want. But you know how it is; rather than hurt someone’s feelings by telling them you don’t like the gift, you accept it graciously then hide it away. What an absolute waste of space, resources and other people’s cash.

Since embracing mindful living and minimalism, I have a new outlook on giving and receiving gifts.

So, I have set myself a few guidelines which are as follows:

Ask people what they want. That way people get things they like or need. Also, it frees up lots of time, too; no more wandering around the shops weighing up my options and then deciding to buy Great Aunt Betty another candle.

If that fails, or people can’t decide what they want, or if there is nothing they need, I will buy them something they can eat, a bottle of their favourite beverage or a voucher for a shop they like to visit. The voucher is a good idea because they can make their own decision about what to buy. 

If people decide not to ask me what I want and I end up getting a gift I do not like or need, I will ask if the present can be exchanged. If the gift can’t be changed, I will sell it online, donate to a charity shop or gift it to someone who will appreciate the item. 

Some folk may think that my ideas make me ungrateful.  I’m not. I just don’t see the point of hiding away stuff that I will never use. I may as well get something that serves me a purpose; something that adds value to my life. Things stashed away at the bottom of drawers do nothing but add clutter to my now tidy home and tidy mind.

For my birthday, I’ve requested some sketchbooks and a set of pens.    

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  1. Asking for things I really want appeals to me.

    1. Hi, Christine. Thank you for commenting. The only way to get what you want is to ask for it.

  2. It's so much easier if you ask someone what they would like.

    All the best Jan

    1. It certainly is. Some people find it embarrassing, but I don't know why. If you ask, you can be sure your getting the right thing.