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Sunday, 10 February 2019

It's Not All Hearts And Cuddly Toys




It's not long until Valentine's Day, and if you're trying to keep an eye on the finances this time of year can be difficult. The shops are full of strategically positioned, brightly decorated, cuddly toys, and heart-shaped cushions emblazoned with ‘I Love You' logos.  

I’m not trying to be a cynic, but the shops have really latched on to how enthusiastic we consumers are to show our spouses, partners, or whatever you like to call your loved one, how much we care for them. By the way, has anyone noticed how much the price of a bunch of flowers increases on the lead up to February 14th? And how much extra it costs to have a meal out on the day itself?

But once the big day has passed, what do you do with a bright red, glittery cushion? Well, if you’re anything like me (How I used to be, I meant to say.), shove it in a drawer where it will gather dust for the next couple of years.

I have to ask myself the question, ‘Does presenting my wife with an overly priced bouquet mean I love her any more than if I didn’t? And would I love her any less if she didn’t give me some trinket in return?’

No, on both counts.

Modern society pressures us into thinking this is what we have to do to show our loved ones how much we care. I don’t watch much television, but I was watching a documentary a few days ago, and every commercial break included some ad implying that if you buy this or that product, it will prove how much you care.

Nonsense, I say.

It’s the things you do all year round that let someone know you love them. Things like listening to them when they are hurting, showing them you understand and are willing to help them achieve their dreams, being there when they need a shoulder to cry on, or cooking them a meal when the book you’re reading is far more interesting than chopping onions.   

This year we are not indulging in all the ‘fluff.’  We will be presenting each other with cards, but that’s as far as it will go. Besides, do either of us really need a cuddly toy to tell us we love each other? 

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10 comments:

  1. I have to agree wholeheartedly John (no pun intended) but sadly the corporate cash in has latched onto every occasion giving us no break before the next event takes over our local supermarket or high street.
    Makes me wonder if this is one of the reasons why shops are rapidly closing down as people not strong enough to pull away from those corporate companies now choose not to visit them. We can not blame it all on the ease of online shopping.
    My Husband and I now recycle the same card each year just like Christmas and do not need flowers and gifts to show our affections. After 30 years together I think we've cracked it!!!
    Have a super Sunday.. Creative wishes Tracey x

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    1. Hi, Tracy. So, I'm not the only one who thinks like this. I think people are becoming more aware of how the corporate machine operates and as a result more people are shopping less. I'm very much into 'slow' fashion nowadays, and I see an increase in folk doing the same thing. Thank you for your comment, Tracy.

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  2. Wonderful post for this overly hyped and expensive holiday.
    My husband and I will be married 48 years in April and believe me...our love for each other wasn't created in a valentine heart but in two very real, beating hearts.
    When I met my husband he didn't arrive with jewelry, flowers and a box of chocolates. I was drawn to his beautiful sky blue eyes that I felt would go wonderfully with my dark brown ones. I must have been correct :)

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    1. Thank you, Jan, for your comment. It is over-hyped, isn't it. I met my wife quite by chance, and neither of us were carrying gifts for one-another. Love does not arrive in fluffy toys or bouquets of flowers.

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  3. This will eliminate a lot of clutter. Good idea.

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    1. Hi, Christine. Oh, there will be lot less clutter this year; in our household at least.

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  4. Your post is spot on John... and I love Tracey and Jan's comments too.
    We've just celebrated our 50th Wedding Anniversary and dance to the beat of our own drum not to that of commercialism.
    It's the little things in life that matter :D)

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    1. Hi, Sue. Thank you for commenting. I think it's best 'to beat your own drum' that way everything is your life is a representation of you - not someones else's vision of how your life should be.

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  5. Should it not be Valentine's Day every day? But not with gifts or cards just a special smile, or squeeze of the hand to say I love you and thank you …

    All the best Jan

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    1. Hi, Jan. Couldn't agree more. Everyday should be Valentine's Day. When you care for someone you can't save it up for one big day. It's an all year round thing.

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